Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Why I'm inventing Eden...

I have been rolling this blog around in my mind for weeks, maybe months now, and finally decide to just do it.  I struggled with what I should write and what I should include.  I still am unsure about a lot of these things, but I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens I guess!

So why the title Inventing Eden?  Well, I am on a bit of a mission.  A mission to create the safest, happiest, and healthiest home for my family I can.  Our very own Eden so to speak.  I am in no way under the impression that I can truly create our own Garden of Eden here on Earth, it would be impossible!  But when God created Eden for Adam and Eve he created a place that was secure, healthy, and full of love and happiness.  This is what I want for my children.  I know that I can't protect them from all the pain, sadness, and evil in the world.  Home should be an oasis from that though.  This blog is a way for me to share our journey with others and to keep me motivated when things get difficult. 

The last few years have been a struggle for my family.  I have lost 2 jobs, have separated from my husband, endured another year and a half relationship with a manipulative, violent alcoholic, lost a child at 3 months of pregnancy, battled a 3 year battle with depression, lost my home, moved in with my parents, and my Mom has been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer.   Last March I had to leave my home in the middle of the night with nothing more than a duffel bag of clothes and my son to protect him from the man who claimed to love us.  The man I thought I could rebuild my life with.  I was 6 months pregnant at the time. I'm probably lucky I made it through that night unharmed. 

Not all has been bad though, I've had a beautiful baby girl who I wouldn't trade for the world, gone back to school to pursue a career I've been wanting for a very long time, and gotten to spend a lot of quality time with my Mom.  I also began going to church again and have rededicated my life to God.  It has been that relationship with Him and 6 months of counseling at Mainstay, a center for abused women, that have gotten me through the last year. 

I have repaired my relationship with my ex-husband and am well on my way to rebuilding our friendship.  We will never be together as a couple again, but he is a wonderful father and it's so good for my son to know that Mom and Dad don't hate each other.  My daughter's father is no longer in our lives.  I asked him to get counseling and go to substance abuse classes in order to have any sort of visitation rights with his daughter.  He chose a life of drugs and alcohol over his own daughter.  I haven't heard from him since before she was born last May.  Honestly, I couldn't be happier.  She is better off without him in her life.

I now have an opportunity to start fresh which is something not many people get.  It is my new mission in life to provide them both with a life that gives them everything they need to grow into confident, happy, healthy adults who are respectful, well adjusted and ready to tackle anything the world throws at them.  I hope to document that journey in this blog.  It will give me an outlet to share ideas, voice frustrations, and hold myself accountable.  I am so excited about starting this new journey and can't wait to see where it may lead!

In closing I wanted to leave you with this verse.  It has given me strenght over the last several months when I didn't think I would be able to make it through.  God bless...

I lift up my eyes to the hills--where does my help come from?  My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.  He will not let your foot slip--he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.  The LORD watches over you--the LORD is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night.  The LORD will keep you from all harm--he will watch over your life; the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.   Psalm 121:1-8

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